Lessons in Life

This afternoon was bittersweet for me. I am so completely relieved about the divorce being finalized. I was hoping to hqve someone to celebrate with, yet, the one I love is going through a bit of a rough day. A friend of his died & it hit him pretty hard. I didn't know her or of her or anything of their friendship, so I didn't have a clue as to what I ought to do. I felt completely helpless. I tried to imagine what he was feeling & realized that I am built differently from most. My emotions are kept in check more often than not. I express sorrow, but it doesn't paralyze me as it does many.

Confusion Written June 17, 2011

My mind is flooded with thoughts that I need to attempt to put in words to see the picture more clearly. I am madly in love with a man who I adore & want to spend the rest of my life with. We have been talking about marriage and a future together. We have been talking about a family. All the things I have ever wanted, I found in him, when I wasn't even looking. The past I'd say month has been like one giant roller coaster of emotions. We both come with baggage... pasts that were far from perfect. I love & respect and appreciate him all the more after knowing where he came from. Against all odds, he is an incredible soul. He could have turned out bitter &  he could blame everything on his past, and resent the world, but he doesn't. He takes responsibility for his life. He is such a deeply devoted & caring person that it physically eats at him when things are not right & he doesn't know what to do.
Tonight, I am beyond confused about so many things. The only thing I am certain of is that I love Mike more than I have ever thought possible to love anyone.

A Step Back... from April 13, 2011

It's interesting to me that all these people come out of the woodworks when they weren't there before.

Written June 15, 2011

My heart is heavy today. I am confused about a few things. I am confused about how people can be so selfish & heartless to say mean & hurtful things to such incredibly good people. It makes me physically ill to see someone so kind be treated so bad. It's not right on any level. Why is it so easy for us to treat the people we claim to love so horrific? IT'S NOT OKAY!!!

Anonymous

"As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back"

Eleven Hints For life

Stumbled upon this today & I love it!


"Eleven Hints for Life"

1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return.
But what is more painful is to love someone and never
find the courage to let that person know how you feel.

2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who
means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was
never meant to be and you just have to let go.

3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a
porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away
feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.

4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose
it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been
missing until it arrives.

5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an
hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it
takes a lifetime to forget someone.

6. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth,
even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you
smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day
seem bright.

7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go,
be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and
one chance to do all the things you want to do.

8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it
hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.

9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck
a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may
heal and bless.

10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best
of everything they just make the most of everything that comes
along their way.

11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with
a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone
around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die,
you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying. 

Freedom

So, I get home from lunch today & get the best gift anyone could have given me. My divorce has been finalized!!! I am over the moon excited. I was so relieved, I cried. Even though my marriage was over ages ago, I could not close the book because that one little paper that made the entire thing official hadn't come yet. A weight has been lifted off my shoulders like no other. I feel like I can truly breathe again. It is an incredible feeling!

Ties That Bind...

So, recently, I've had some very interesting thoughts running through my mind. A friend posed a very good question about what it is that is the most important thing in a relationship. I had several answers. The popular ones were: 4 people said communication, 6 people said honesty, 4 people said respect, only one person said faith & another said loyalty, & yet another said selflessness, in a nutshell or to nearly quote, putting the other's happiness first, & very few actually said love, which surprised me. Here's my spin on it. I think that the most important thing in a relationship is Love & that if you truly & genuinely love someone, respect, faith, trust, communication, loyalty, selflessness should all follow &, in my opinion, cannot be separated. As far as a relationship goes, I think the true test of any relationship is how well it stands up to trial & tribulation.... meaning that, can it weather a storm? Everyone likes to have fun, that's easy... What about when the going gets tough... do you stand together or do you fall? Things aren't always going to be easy. No 2 people will ever agree on everything. Is that a reason to give up & walk away or do you stay & figure out where the other is coming from. It can help a relationship grow stronger or it can break it. The choice is up to you. Love should make you want to be a better person, not only for yourself, but for the other person as well. You should be growing together, making each other better. Seeing the other one succeed should make you happy, not resentful or jealous. If your relationship doesn't do these things for you, it may be time to reevaluate... just my opinion though.
What is the tie that binds? is it your bloodline? Is it your beliefs? Is it something else?
Do you think people just get comfortable with what they have & become numb. Do they settle because it's easy? Is it fear that paralyzes them because they may not know what is out there or what they are capable of? I think there is greatness in all of us. We just need to know how to tap into ourselves & foster the self growth & improvement to get there.
Recently, I have been blessed to be a shoulder & an ear for a dear friend. She's another GI Jane. She was a Marine & now she's a mom. She's been going through some stuff in her life & is at a crossroads where she sees where she wants to be, but she isn't quite sure how to get there. I was able to offer whatever insight I had. Not sure how useful or helpful it all was, but hopefully she took what she could from it. I told her how therapeutic blogging was, if for no other reason than to get her voice out there & for her to maybe look at & find a new perspective on the situations she's trying to figure out. She is a great person so capable of many great things. She just has to see what we see in her. I have every faith she'll get there.