So, recently, I've had some very interesting thoughts running through my mind. A friend posed a very good question about what it is that is the most important thing in a relationship. I had several answers. The popular ones were: 4 people said communication, 6 people said honesty, 4 people said respect, only one person said faith & another said loyalty, & yet another said selflessness, in a nutshell or to nearly quote, putting the other's happiness first, & very few actually said love, which surprised me. Here's my spin on it. I think that the most important thing in a relationship is Love & that if you truly & genuinely love someone, respect, faith, trust, communication, loyalty, selflessness should all follow &, in my opinion, cannot be separated. As far as a relationship goes, I think the true test of any relationship is how well it stands up to trial & tribulation.... meaning that, can it weather a storm? Everyone likes to have fun, that's easy... What about when the going gets tough... do you stand together or do you fall? Things aren't always going to be easy. No 2 people will ever agree on everything. Is that a reason to give up & walk away or do you stay & figure out where the other is coming from. It can help a relationship grow stronger or it can break it. The choice is up to you. Love should make you want to be a better person, not only for yourself, but for the other person as well. You should be growing together, making each other better. Seeing the other one succeed should make you happy, not resentful or jealous. If your relationship doesn't do these things for you, it may be time to reevaluate... just my opinion though.
What is the tie that binds? is it your bloodline? Is it your beliefs? Is it something else?
Do you think people just get comfortable with what they have & become numb. Do they settle because it's easy? Is it fear that paralyzes them because they may not know what is out there or what they are capable of? I think there is greatness in all of us. We just need to know how to tap into ourselves & foster the self growth & improvement to get there.
Recently, I have been blessed to be a shoulder & an ear for a dear friend. She's another GI Jane. She was a Marine & now she's a mom. She's been going through some stuff in her life & is at a crossroads where she sees where she wants to be, but she isn't quite sure how to get there. I was able to offer whatever insight I had. Not sure how useful or helpful it all was, but hopefully she took what she could from it. I told her how therapeutic blogging was, if for no other reason than to get her voice out there & for her to maybe look at & find a new perspective on the situations she's trying to figure out. She is a great person so capable of many great things. She just has to see what we see in her. I have every faith she'll get there.
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